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It stands to reason that human beings are not supposed to be with just one person our entire lives. No animal would stand to be with one person sexually their entire lives, it's just not natural. Marriage, therefore, is not natural.
Perhaps many of us can overcome this and get on with our lives with one person. We may call them 'the one' or 'our soul mate', but human nature dictates that we are drawn to other people. We may be married, but we still look at other people, in short, we window shop. Many people, go one step further and commit adultery.
Perhaps we have been conditioned to believe that our promiscuous stage occurs in our late teens and early twenties, but throughout our lives, we have sexual needs. It's not 'dirty' it's not wrong, it's human nature. When you marry, chances are, the sex life becomes unfulfilled. To put it nicely, you get bored with each other.
The Ancients combatted this problem, by sleeping around and not questionning it. We however, see this as taboo.
Of course we all want to share fun times with someone we have our lives in common with. Many people will say they wish to spend their entire lives together. But, if that person were offered their celebrity crush for one night, in which no one would ever find out, the chances are, they wouldn't say no. Marriage, logically therefore, is a passion killer. It kills the spark there once was. Porn is such a lucrative business, because people feel unfulfilled in their sex lives. Married men, are the biggest viewers of porn. They are also the most frequent visitors to lap dancing clubs. Women buy vibrators, to fantasize about someone other than their partner. And no matter how this is portrayed, it isn't a man's fault. It isn't a woman's fault. It's human nature. Human nature is not being with the same person for our entire lives.
Doesn't it make more sense, for the purpose of happiness, to stay with someone, split with them the moment the passion dies, and get together with someone else, and carry this chain on? "The one" does not exist. There is not one person for everyone. There are many people, for everyone. Doesn't promiscuity, although a taboo, appear to be much more desirable, and in the interests of human nature? Sexual attraction is something none of us can get away from, no matter how "in love" we think we are. Is our sexual freedom blocked, by a system of religious beliefs, that even if we're Atheist, still have a concept of? Social norms decide how we can and can't act, sexually.
People live in an odd dream World sometimes, where out of the billions of people living on the planet, their perfect partner, the person they wish to spend their lives with, apparently just lives down the road. These people have usually only really actually travelled to the end of their road, so have nothing to compare their 'one' too. It's quite ridiculous. Perhaps the way we feel at a certain time dictates 'the one' but we all change. Perhaps 'the one' when we're 17, may be the opposite to what we want when we're 40. Perhaps a part of them, is not compatible, or maybe we start looking elsewhere, because, as suggested earlier, looking elsewhere is human nature. We don't look elsewhere for different parents, we don't look at a celebrity and wish that they were our parents instead of who are actually our parents, because there exists that unconditional love that just doesn't exist with our partners.
Marriage isn't natural. Because Jamie said so. |
